It’s Not What You’ve DONE, It’s What You KNOW!

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I have spent years and years racking my brain to understand why certain people in my life have treated me so badly. It all became very clear a few months ago when I was talking out loud and said, “I just don’t understand what I have done to warrant this kind treatment. The punishment doesn’t fit the crime.”

My husband, who I thought was nose deep into one of his Archie Double Digest comic books, looked up over his glasses and said, “It’s not what you’ve done, it’s what you know.”

I asked him to explain and he said, “With all of my years of being a cop in the military, 90% of the investigations I have been involved with focus on what people know not exactly what they have done.”  I sat quiet for a moment thinking about what he said. Then I thought of the thousands and thousands of dollars I spent on counseling trying to answer this simple question that was casually solved on a lazy Sunday afternoon.

He went on to say, “After reviewing your documentation, witness statements, pictures and the proof you have against these people, they are intimidated and defensive that you have the ability to reveal their truths. They want you as far away from them as possible. They also know you’re married to a cop and that alone may scare them.”

There it was. He was spot on! Everything started to come into focus now. I felt this unbelievable power of no longer feeling unworthy. When you’re able to connect the dots and make sense of something that has literally bothered your soul for as long as you can remember, you can’t help but to feel empowered. I felt stronger and more confidant than I have ever felt.

I looked at him and asked, “Do I call them up and say this? Do I send an e-mail?” He smiled and said, “You can do whatever you want, but I will say this… once they hear from you, they will feel threatened. Once they feel like they are losing control they will either threaten you or attempt to file a restraining order against you.” I laughed and said, “No way. That would never happen!”

A few weeks after I had shared my thoughts on the situation and that I was no longer going to be involved with the drama, I received a text message threatening me with a restraining order. My husband…was right…again.

So, if you’re in a place where your punishment doesn’t fit the crime, maybe it’s not what you’ve done, but what you know!

Dropping Weight Fast!

My friend Lagea posted on Facebook a few weeks ago where she mentioned something about fasting. I glanced at her picture (she looks amazing) and was curious to know what this “intermittent fasting” stuff was all about.

I sent her a private message and she was kind enough to share videos, links and book titles.

This is Dr. Jason Fung.

He has changed my life. I wish I would have known about him YEARS ago.


I will post more about my progress and how Intermittent Fasting or “IF” has helped me to drop weight safely and in a healthy manner.  

If you fast or have any suggestions or tips, please share!

Happy Fasting!



A Recipe of Goodness!

If I visit one more weight loss blog and all I see are selfie after #selfie of the person at the gym, or striking a pose in those lame ass bathroom mirror photos, I’m going to scream! If you’re one of those people, knock it off.

I get it! We ALL get it! You look amazing now…but I want to SEE and learn about your journey.

How did you get to this point? How did you start working out? What tricks did you learn to help eat better?

I want to share tricks and tips on how to eat healthier and on a budget. I don’t give AF about how you can finally fit into your size 4 jeans. Maybe I’m the only one who thinks that way and if so, that’s cool. 👍🏼😁

If you’re looking for a filling, cheap and easy salad, check out this concoction I make for lunch. It keeps me full until dinner and I don’t need to take a loan out to afford the food. Change the ingredients to what you like, it’s okay to experiment.




Taylor Farms Salad – $1.33 per serving

Daisy Cottage Cheese 16oz – $.75 per serving

Kraft Thousand Island Dressing – $.12 per serving

Kroger Sunflower Seeds – $.48 per serving

Total cost per serving – $2.68 per serving


Portion Control…

is like the Spanx of eating. It keeps your portion within reason and helps you to not feel like a total pig.

2 Cups of Taylor Farms Salad – 30 calories

1 cup of low fat Daisy Cottage Cheese – 180 calories

4 tablespoons of sunflower seeds – 60 calories

2 tablespoons of bacon crumbles – 25 calories

Kraft Thousand Island Dressing – 130 calories

“My bowl runneth over.”



When, “I don’t have time!” Is No Longer An Excuse


One of the benefits of staying at this Marriott Residence Inn, is that we were upgraded to a LARGER hotel room. Thank you God, Buddha, and Universe!! I’m no longer prisoner in my sleep to the toxic, most awful smelling #chemo farts known to man. (Sorry honey, I love you but OMG!) 🤢

The other up side of this move is the fact that I am literally steps to the gym. It doesn’t matter if I squat too much or bend the wrong way. Chances are good that one way or another I will be able to waddle back down the hall to our room after a good workout.

So here we go! I signed up for Peloton Digital and already found several “boot camp” classes for beginners, because let’s face it…I grunt just getting up from the couch.

I’m a total newbie. So please share any advice you may have.


I’m a REBEL!


I’m not going to lie, I’ve sucked down many a quart of ice creams in my life. The taste, the consistency, the sugar, the act of eating ice cream because I’m bored…you get the idea.

That’s how I felt when I destroyed this container of Rebel Ice Cream. I let the container sit out for about 20 minutes and once it became a little soft, I hogged down! (Yes, that is my dog in the background silently judging me.)


The consistency was a bit “chalky” at first, but that didn’t matter one bit! The taste was well worth it and the longer it melted, the creamier it became.

The coffee chip flavor was a great combination and wasn’t watery or mushy. There was a slight aftertaste that didn’t last long and certainly didn’t hurt the overall flavor.


If I was a spokesperson for this ice cream, which I’m not, but if I was…I would say this flavor is down right SCRUMMY! (That’s a good thing!)

Here’s all the important stuff…



Hello 2019!

aaaa2c6f-86d1-4d91-80a4-c4dd91ceffd1Whatever you do, do NOT look back at 2018!

Just let that year go and let’s focus on the NEW, FRESH, BEAUTIFUL, GLORIOUS, 2019 that is upon us.

So far it’s been AWESOM! We were upgraded from a 1bed/1bath hotel room, to a 2bed/2bath! If that’s not enough to make you squeal with delight, you better sit down for this. We have AN OVEN!!!!!!!!!!!oven

Holy Bat Shit Robin! I mean we love our Door Dash, and GrubHub, but at the end of the day there’s something fantastic about a home cooked meal.

If you think having my own bathroom, and an oven is great news…you better apply the oxygen mask and buckle up.

Our new room is 20 steps away from the gym, pool and the ice machine. (I mean seriously, who doesn’t love a commercial ICE MAKER!)

I have ZERO excuse now to not get in there and utilize the beautiful machines and weights.

So 2019, this is the year! I closed some very important chapters last year. I’m opening up some truly scary, fun new chapters this year. The time has finally come where I want this now.

I need this now.