Go Ahead…Have Your Cake AND Eat It Too!

As my husband and I begin our PCS (permanent change of station) move to California, I was asked to be in charge of the cake for his farewell office party. Something so simple, somehow became very important to me.  I wanted to select a cake that would really capture what he is all about. It had to be different, funny and of course unforgettable.

I met up with my friend and showed her a picture of what I wanted the cake to look like. She couldn’t help but laugh and explained how I have inspired her to always take risks and to think outside the box. She said, “I would have always played it safe with a sheet cake, but you come along and you make it okay to be different and to make it memorable.”

I told her how much Gary loved Popeyes Chicken and how he and his friends would eat Popeyes1there almost every day. When he went in for his surgery he was asking for Popeyes Chicken and biscuits in the hospital room. So this cake was simply perfect for my husband!

THANK YOU Celebrity Cake Studio in Tacoma — You’re simply the best!!

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Lose Weight By Removing Toxic Food & Toxic People From Your Life

Through the years I have tried several diets, worked with trainers, and belonged to over a dozen gyms. It wasn’t until I sat down with my doctor that I understood the importance of removing toxic food and toxic people from my life.

While we are so focused on our WOE (Way of Eating) we sometimes forget about our WOT (Way of Thinking). For years I would always try to please other people, and in doing so I made some stupid mistakes. To make sure everyone else was happy,  I would apologize, even if I hadn’t done anything wrong. Looking back on it now, its sad how I never really gave a second thought to my own happiness.

At one point several years ago I was accused of posting something in a forum that I never did. For the first time in my life I didn’t apologize. Did the accusers call me to talk about it? No. Did they meet with me in person? No. Did they send me e-mails to try and work on it? No. I was cut off. Yes, the classic game of silent treatment.

Sure, I went through the emotions of being angry, sad, frustrated and guilty. (Funny how you can feel guilty for doing whats right.) Then while talking to my doctor he explained that this situation was actually a gift. He asked me, “Why in the world would you want someone to want you in their life if they think you’re toxic to them? The fact that you don’t have to feel pressure to please these people any more, is a gift.” I don’t know if it’s because he’s a doctor, or the fact that he has known me for so long, but what he said made sense.

DominoesThat moment when I stood up for myself was a game changer for me in so many ways. It was if the empowerment domino was knocked over and it started the chain reaction for all things wonderful to happen in my life. I started to believe and feel that I deserved the best that life has to offer. I felt worthy of love, something that I hadn’t really felt before. I was done being taken for granted and I was done allowing people to treat me poorly.

While I will always work hard to eliminate the toxic foods I was once putting in my body, I will continue to focus on keeping the toxic people out of my life. Is it difficult sometimes? Absolutely. But living a healthy, toxic-free life, is well worth it!

Accept relationships for what they are, not what you think they should be.

Armless NASCAR Engineer Richie Parker is My Hero

I was forwarded this video yesterday of a man named Richie Parker.

Richie Parker’s entire life has been a refusal to accept the limitations of his condition. Born without arms, he has heard through his whole life that there were things he simply could not do. But when he invariably decided that he would do those things anyway, he had to be innovative and determined in figuring out how it would be done. This and a longtime love of cars led naturally to a career as an engineer, working for Hendrick Motorsports. The innovation and determination that help him overcome his handicap now help him be a champion.