Feeling Selfish is OKAY!


For the longest time I would put other people before myself. I would feel enormous guilt if I wanted to do something for me. After years of counseling I realized that being SELFISH is absolutely OKAY! I’ve heard it before time and time again that I needed to “take care of myself first” but every time I would start, I would feel like I was being selfish. Finally my heart caught up with my brain and now it’s easier to say “no” or opt out of things if they don’t bring me joy or fulfill whatever need it is that I’m longing for.

If you’re in a place where you want to do something that makes you happy, but you are hesitant for whatever reason…go for it! You may feel like you’re being “selfish” but that means you’re doing something right!

Lose Weight By Removing Toxic Food & Toxic People From Your Life

Through the years I have tried several diets, worked with trainers, and belonged to over a dozen gyms. It wasn’t until I sat down with my doctor that I understood the importance of removing toxic food and toxic people from my life.

While we are so focused on our WOE (Way of Eating) we sometimes forget about our WOT (Way of Thinking). For years I would always try to please other people, and in doing so I made some stupid mistakes. To make sure everyone else was happy,  I would apologize, even if I hadn’t done anything wrong. Looking back on it now, its sad how I never really gave a second thought to my own happiness.

At one point several years ago I was accused of posting something in a forum that I never did. For the first time in my life I didn’t apologize. Did the accusers call me to talk about it? No. Did they meet with me in person? No. Did they send me e-mails to try and work on it? No. I was cut off. Yes, the classic game of silent treatment.

Sure, I went through the emotions of being angry, sad, frustrated and guilty. (Funny how you can feel guilty for doing whats right.) Then while talking to my doctor he explained that this situation was actually a gift. He asked me, “Why in the world would you want someone to want you in their life if they think you’re toxic to them? The fact that you don’t have to feel pressure to please these people any more, is a gift.” I don’t know if it’s because he’s a doctor, or the fact that he has known me for so long, but what he said made sense.

DominoesThat moment when I stood up for myself was a game changer for me in so many ways. It was if the empowerment domino was knocked over and it started the chain reaction for all things wonderful to happen in my life. I started to believe and feel that I deserved the best that life has to offer. I felt worthy of love, something that I hadn’t really felt before. I was done being taken for granted and I was done allowing people to treat me poorly.

While I will always work hard to eliminate the toxic foods I was once putting in my body, I will continue to focus on keeping the toxic people out of my life. Is it difficult sometimes? Absolutely. But living a healthy, toxic-free life, is well worth it!

Accept relationships for what they are, not what you think they should be.